A Dating App usually doesn’t have a very positive connotation. Very often it feel like these apps reeks with desperation, filled horny people willing to expose themselves in more ways than one, in the pretext of being laid or getting laid. Well, for most part of it this view is spot on.
Yes these apps have people who are desperate and horny, who are unable to score in the open, people who want to be discreet but meet people, people who want to fuck or be fucked, looking for NSA (no strings attached), FNF (fuck and forget), and ONS (one night stands). But this doesn’t justify the condescending and judgemental nature directed towards them.
You need to have open mind here, this isn’t a place to pass your judgement. Everyone here has an agenda, so you need to know what is yours, what are you looking, what are your expectations. Everyone has one and is more than willing to let you know what it is, and there’s nothing wrong with that. You may roll your eyes when you read their profile, their expectations, which can be construed as rude, but in reality they are to the point, as per what they want. You are left wondering are these supermodels, as the preferences can be quiet insulting and blunt, but then that’s what they want, and in a place where’s its all based on choice and preference, they have all the right to say what they want.
You may be scandalised by the pictures they share, exposing themselves more than what you would want them to (as if you have a choice on what they show), but then you have a choice, you can chose to ignore and not respond, or you can swipe left (for us lucky Apple user), or just block them. You have a choice, exercise it rather than lamenting on the type of characters who approach you, who you come across. These people know what they want, what they are looking for, if it doesn’t match what you want you can exercise your choice. You can choose to meet over a cup of coffee and a conversation, and go with the flow, and if things go south, you can choose to end it, and forget it ever happened (except if you want to give it a second chance).
No matter how many weirdos you may come across, there are few (a minority) that make it worth being on the app. Sometimes you need to kiss (or meet) a thousand of toads for the one to turn out the one. They can floor you with their words, knowing just the right thing to say, making flirting seem casual and exciting, making horniness seem dignified, putting you and your mind at ease. They can put a smile on your, and make time fly by with their conversation. You can spend hours talking to them, listening to them, never ever bothering about time, making time seem inconsequential. They make every moment spent with them feel precious, they make you feel special. They have a smile to dazzle you, making you go giddy, making you want to revisit chats so that you can relive every moment in your head. They make it worth traveling miles just to meet them, and at time floor you when they travel to meet you, make it totally worth responding to them. They may not be people with the best physique or drop dead gorgeous looks, but if you look past the superficialities there’s more to them that makes them worth it. You enjoy their company and look forward to chatting and meeting them. And if you go with the flow you never know where it may lead.
But to meet these gems at times you need to go through the mire. Be patient and you never know what may come your way, how you will be rewarded. So approach these apps with an open mind. Leave your prejudices, your judgemental behaviour and condescending nature at the door, and go with the flow and you’ll never know what may come your way, you’ll never know how it can surprise you, all you have to do exercise your choice.
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