..and it all starts with a Connection

We all need love. It’s what we seek out, it’s what we need, just to love and be loved, it’s the greatest thing we will ever do. And though we may deny and try to hide from it, there’s no escaping it, cause love is all we need, love is all around us, like oxygen in the air that we breathe, all we need is love. But so often love eludes us, plays hide and seek with us, trying our patience, filling us with hope and then disappearing altogether. Sometimes love takes time to happen, never happening when we want it to happen, leaving us worn out, tired and drained, but always filling us with hope that it’s just around the corner.

But then love doesn’t always happen when we intend it to happen. When did things ever happen as it was planned to happen. Sometimes love happens when you least expect it, when you have given up on it, when you feel all hope is lost, when you have given up on it. Sometimes love needs to be given time for it to happen and for it to mature.

But more important than falling in love is forming a connection. When you form a connect you can move ahead. It’s not necessarily may need to love and companionship, but it forms a bond that goes way beyond the rules of love. It’s easy to get between the sheet, and get all wrapped up in the passion during sex. But when you connect you make love. You find passion not in the bump and grind but in those moment when you just lay still by each other, when you rest your head and can hear a heart beat as it beats like a steel drum against the chest. Those moments stay with you like photographs captured and hung on the walls of your mind.

You find a connection in those moments of stillness. You connect in something simple as holding hands, and something as complicated as opening yourself, showing yourself, your vulnerability, bearing your wounds and your inner demons, sharing you, not just a part of you. You form a trust, a bond. It’s saying I trust you with my innermost self, I am bearing my soul to you cause I can trust you to see who I truly am, and I know you’ll not go screaming, running for the hill.

We have all been hurt. We have hurt and have been hurted. That makes us cautious, makes us afraid of going down that road again, to come to that juncture once again, a situation we never ever want to put ourselves in and through. All this makes cautious, makes us put up walls to protect ourselves from getting hurt once again. So we take things cautiously, one step at a time, trying hard not to get ahead of ourselves, not to build castles in the skies so that they may come tumbling down, so they don’t come crashing down to earth. Moreover you are also cautious cause your love doesn’t follow the conventional rules of society. You don’t recognise the labels that others put on you. You rebel against it, you refuse to labelled, to be told who you should love and how should you love. But still your cautious from your past experiences, your past mistakes and transgressions.

But in all this we don’t loose hope, so we may take things cautiously, but we can’t help ourselves to hope. We need time to heal, these small steps help to get us there, where we want to be, where we want to be, to heal, to be at peace with ourselves. 

Despite all the caution we can’t help ourselves falling in love, hoping to fall in love, hoping to have someone to come home to, to share life with, someone to tell you that there maybe more than a million people in the world but for them you are one in the million, you’ll never be alone cause they will be there for you, your life will never go unwitnessed cause they will witness your life. You mean the world to them, your life is important to them. 

But in the end it all start slow and steady, it all starts from creating a connection, a connection that grow strong with every moment you spend together, every memory you make together, every stories and experience you share together. It all starts with a connection.