Boys Don't Cry

Right from our childhood and through our adult life, we men are hardwired to this adage "Boys don't cry". Men have always been considered as the stronger sex whereas women are the weaker gender. However, in a recent article in a wellknown daily it was reported that the number of suicide among married men was greater than that of married women.

So does this mean that men do cry? Men do get hurt. They get used and abused and often fall victim to the "Victim" card. Men find themselves emotionally blackmailed into situation they don't want to be in, that's neither conducive nor healthy for them. Forced into a relationship they don't want to be in, often to conform to societal norms and parental and other pressure. 

Sadly what is perceived as strong is what brings them down. In a view of staying true to this adage, they end up internalizing the pain and hurt, bottling it up within till they can hold it no more. Sadly they have no one to answer their cry for help because boys don't cry and no one will believe they do. This leads to frustration and desperation and often taking the drastic step.

It's not like woman don't deserve support, it just that men need that too. Very often men are victims of false complains and emotional blackmail, the others get aware due to the perception of the weaker sex. There's no much of support group or help available to ment  to whom they can reach out to. This leads to unreasonable compromises and unhealthy relationships and often leading to the grave.

So it's time we put this adage to rest. There's no weakness in bawling our eyes out, seeking help when needed, giving vent to feelings. What's important is recognising the fact that men too need help, if not more, then equally. It's important to recognise the sign and reach out and support. 

Cause in the in the end we are all human and we do cry irrespective of our gender.