Marriage & Relationships

There is one question, we eligible Bachelors and Spinsters, have to answer at every wedding. Whenever you go to hello some family friend or an elderly aunties, we can't help but have this question be put to us. "So when are you inviting us to yours?" There a part of me that wants to put the same questions to them during a funeral.

At times, hearing this question makes you wonder whether we are born just to get married and invite all these aunties and friends to the celebration? Is marriage a necessary part of life? What exactly do we look for in a marriage? Time and again we are reminded that man is a social animal. But then does marriage forms a part of this socialising? Is marriage an important part of life?

We seek companionship in life. As a person I know I like being around friends and people I love and care about. Loneliness can be a very treacherous friend, often pushing you down the depths of despair and depression. Often eating you up.

Often we seek out people who could bear witness to our lives. A person to love and care. Someone to call our own, but not own. Being in love can be quite an exhilarating feeling. But how long will this feeling last? What happens when the magic runs out? Is there really a happily ever after?

I remember mentioning this in my toast for my parent's silver wedding anniversary that being together for 28 years (that's when we managed to celebrate their silver anniversary) was quite an achievement. Imagine loving and caring for the same person all these year is quite an inspiration. But do I feel inspired by this is another question.

I know relationship and being in love is somewhat a part of life. Whether its loving someone of the opposite sex or the same sex. But then how do we know we know we are ready for long-term relationship? I know I have failed miserably on these grounds in the past. I know of friends and family member who don't feel the need of being marriage and prefer staying single and drawing happiness from their single hood. They draw happiness and love from the people around them.

Sometime I wonder if I will ever be ready for a relationship, let alone marriage. I know there are times in a relationship when you can feel really great about it and there are time you can feel totally uncomfortable about it. I guess that's part of life. I sometime wonder whether I will ever be comfortable being myself.

There is so many question and no answer and solution in sight. Is there really any solution for these question?. Anyway till then I'll be a Bachelor Boy and that's the way I'll stay. :)