The Relationship Maturisation

We all have this inherent need to love and be loved. Longing to belong, to have someone to call our own. Someone to call our home, where we feel safe, secure and loved.

The naivety of youth, seduced by a hormonal need, never fathoms what love truly is. What seems fresh and new, is often an infatuation, a need for a status change, a label to be applied, a soul to flaunt and go around with. A love that’s not mature enough to stand the test of time, or the first sign of a storm or challenge. Like seeds planted on rocky soil which may bloom for a while but then wither and dry when the sun gets hot, not mature enough to survive the long run.

As youth makes way to middle age and the freshness that was once was there starts to go stale, love too has to change, has to evolve. It can no longer be an infatuation. It needs to turn into something more meaningful, something more mature.    Love requires a commitment, a relationship. You may no longer be the pick of the litter, so finding someone may not come easy. 

Relationship is no longer a physical need, but an inherent want to find someone to settle down with, a quite desperation. But don’t let this desperation cloud your thinking, or what you be left with is a broken relation and shattered heart. 

But you can’t go about being rigid and not letting love affect a change in you. You can’t go saying, this is who I am, and this is who I will be, accept me as I am or leave me. You can’t be like the oak that stood rigid only to be uprooted in the storm.

To make a relationship work you’ve got be willing to let bring a change in you, to let it slowly chip away at you, bringing about a change, for better or worse. Ego has no place in a relationship and needs to checked out at the door, if you want the relationship to work.

Relationship is not always smooth sailing. There may be good days and bad days. Days when all you want to do is get out of it. But if you work things out, the relationship that you share will only mature and grow, and you will grow with it as well. 

So don’t you worry if you haven’t found love, cause love will find you. It may take its time but eventually it will find its way to you. And when you find it don’t let go and let it thrive and grow and your ego and mature with it.