Through Sliding Doors

Have you ever had that nagging thought of what would your life be if you had chosen Option A instead of B, gone with C instead of D? Oh come on, don’t be so naive! Don’t tell me these thoughts never crossed your mind! 

Not really regrets (or at least that what I tell myself), it’s just trying to imagine what life would be if you had chosen differently. Like jumping through the sliding doors of a train you’re trying to catch. What would have happened if you had made it, what would have changed if you missed it (yayayaya, I know you know, or assume you know, that this is a plot from the Gwyneth Paltrow, John Hannah movie).

What would have happened if like your college friends you chose to go to the same classes as them? Would you have scored better in your boards? Would that affect your overall percentage?

What if, like them, you chose to bell the CAT, and complete your MBA. Would your career have taken a different path from the one that you are currently on? Would you be settled with a good paying job and live a globe trotting life? Would you have made millions with no care for loans and expenses?

When you see those pictures of your ex, 

 do you wonder what would life if you have made it work. Would those smiling wedding pics be that of yours? Would those children be yours? Would you be well off or worse if you had matured and worked out the chinks?

Then there’s the gthought of single life and not being in a relationship. What would life be if you were not committed? What would your dating scene be like? Would you be cruising from one person to another?

The “What ifs” and “What nots” of life. We all have them, we all go through them. But remember, at the end of the day we have our Now. The past is gone, we can’t go back and change it. The present is here and what we have to make the most of it. 

We are the sum of the decisions we make. So for better or worse we have to live with it. But then don’t live in regret. It’s the decisions you’ve made and brought you to where you are now. If you have to improve, learn from it and move on, don’t let your thoughts of your past plague you.

Look at it this way, if you had stayed with your ex, you wouldn’t have met the love your life, you wouldn’t open your life to aspects of life you didn’t know where there.

The Now is what you have, make the most of it.